Here we go...* Connor is in First Grade
* I am PTA President
* Bobby is coaching soccer
* Katherine is taking dance - tap/ballet/gymnastics
* Bobby and I separated (photo above taken the day it all changed - didn't know it then)
* Trying to maintain my involvement in my causes
* Looking for ways to turn my passions into a paycheck
Well, okay ya - the list is lacking some details...although not necessary for me to blog about. Let's just say, after a lot of thought (which turns to excessive worry when you are spinning around the same thoughts without resolutions), many conversations, counseling for me alone & then for us together - this really is the best thing. However, inconvenient! I don't mean to sound crass - I have had about 6 months to process the finality of ending a marriage (as opposed to you who may just be finding out about it and in a little shock)...and have come to the conclusion that I am actually grieving more over the loss of 'normalcy' in our lives than I am grieving over the loss of a relationship.
I think a big turning point for me was during the separation when I realized that this time apart was not accomplishing any growth for US...but instead was turning into a countless list of missed events, first ___ without him, and things I have now accomplished on my own. Now I am at the point where I can see that I am not dependent on the relationship (wish I could have depended on it) but am still dependent on the finances of a partnership.
This blog will now turn into my 'journey journal' as I try to figure it all out. YIKES! Okay, maybe not ALL of it will be figured out...but I will make some major changes and movement forward. A wise friend told me the other day that 'not all change is growth and not all movement is forward' - so I will begin to focus to make sure that I am more conscious in my changes and movement. 
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